Five Ways to Support Friends and Family on Their Cancer Journey
When someone we care about is diagnosed with cancer, it can be overwhelming to know how to help. We don’t know what to say because we don’t want to make things worse or say the wrong thing. We also want to act like things are “normal” – when they can be far from it.
Often, we just say “Tell me when you need something.” From the cancer Warrior’s perspective, we often have no idea what to ask for – and we don’t want to bother others or seem like we’re whining.
So, nothing gets done or said.
Here are five specific ways friends, family, and co-workers can provide meaningful support during this challenging time.
Organize a Food/Meal Drive
One of the most practical ways to support someone with cancer is by organizing a food or meal drive. Treatment schedules can be grueling, leaving little energy for cooking. Creating a meal schedule where friends and family sign up to provide meals can be a lifesaver. Consider dietary restrictions and preferences, and make sure to offer a variety of healthy, comforting options. If cooking isn’t your forte, meal delivery services or gift cards to local restaurants can also be greatly appreciated. One option is Instead of Flowers, one of our partners.
Offer Transportation Assistance
Cancer treatment often involves frequent trips to medical appointments, which can be exhausting and logistically challenging. Offering to drive them to their appointments or organizing a carpool schedule with other friends or family members, can alleviate some of this burden. Even offering to sit with them during treatments or appointments can provide much-needed emotional support and companionship.
Provide Emotional Support and a Listening Ear
Sometimes, the best support you can offer is simply being there to listen. Let the cancer Warrior know that they can talk to you about their fears, frustrations, and hopes without judgment. Offer a shoulder to cry on or just a comforting presence. It’s important to validate their feelings and remind them that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Emotional support can significantly impact their mental well-being and resilience. It’s also important to offer this if you don’t live near them. FaceTime, Zooms, texts, emails, and phone calls can easily bring people together.
Assist with Household Chores
Everyday tasks like cleaning, laundry, and yard work can become daunting when someone is undergoing cancer treatment. Offer to help with these chores or arrange for a cleaning service to take some of the pressure off. Small gestures like doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, or taking care of pets can make a big difference and allows them to focus on their health.
Send Thoughtful Care Packages
Creating and sending thoughtful care packages can be a wonderful way to show your support. These packages can include items that provide comfort and relief during treatment, such as cozy blankets, soothing teas, favorite snacks, books, or puzzle games. You can also include practical items like lotion for dry skin, warm socks, or even gift cards for streaming services.
Personalizing the care package with notes of encouragement, support, and love from multiple friends and family members can add an extra layer of warmth and support, reminding them that they are not alone on their journey.
In Conclusion
By taking specific actions, friends, family, and co-workers can provide invaluable support to those on a cancer journey. Remember, your efforts, no matter how small they may seem, can make a significant difference in their lives.
Also, it’s important to remember that the caregivers for someone on their cancer journey often need support. These tips apply to them, too!
Share tips on things you either gave or received during a cancer journey.
