It's OK to Not Be Fine!
When someone asks how we’re doing – whether it’s a friend, loved one, co-worker, doctor…you get the picture – we usually reply, “I’m fine.” Right? We could be ready to run a marathon, about to keel over, or anywhere in between, but we still say, “I’m fine.”
Cancer is a difficult and overwhelming experience for anyone. Living with a condition that requires constant care and attention can be mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting. It’s important to remember that it’s okay to not be fine.
We feel pressure to put on a brave face and pretend like everything is okay. We don’t want to be a bother. Society tells us that we should be grateful for the things we do have and not complain. But the truth is, dealing with cancer can be a constant struggle. It can make it difficult to keep up with our daily responsibilities and it takes a toll on our physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
It’s okay to feel angry, sad, frustrated, or overwhelmed. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it. It’s okay to say “No” to things that you know will put too much strain on your health. It’s okay to prioritize your well-being and focus on what you need to do to take care of yourself!
One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to find a support system. Build your Tribe! This can be friends, family, medical personnel, co-workers…virtually anyone! Having someone to talk to about your experiences can be a huge help. It can also be helpful to reach out to others with cancer for support and to share your experiences.
People often ask me how I stay so positive. It’s hard sometimes! I do give into having a pity party and feel sorry for myself. IT’S NORMAL! The key is to just not stay at that party too long – and get help if you need to.
It’s also important to educate yourself about your diagnosis and learn about the resources available to help you on your journey. You don’t have to do this alone! Reach out to those who can help you.
Finally, remember that self-care is critical. This means taking time for yourself, practicing mindfulness, or finding ways to relieve stress. Everyone’s needs are different, so it’s important to find what works best for you. And most importantly, don’t feel guilty when you do take time for yourself!
In conclusion, it’s okay to not be fine! Be honest when someone asked you how you’re doing. Your journey with cancer is an ongoing struggle and it’s important to remember that it’s okay to ask for help and prioritize your well-being. Again I say, build your Tribe! You are not alone, and you are deserving of love, care, and support.
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